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I'm HIV+ . I recently met a guy who proved to me that he was hiv-. He thinks that I'm hiv- as well. After 3months of dating we had sex; with a condom though. My concern is he performed oral sex where he put his tongue into my vagina licking and sucking. This was a nice experience but m worried that he might be infected. Every time we have sex he likes to do oral sex 1st. He refuse if I ask him not 2 do it. Please help me. How do I tell him 2 stop doing it cos I don't want him 2 be infected

immunodeficiency and hiv tests

Thank you for your time.

I had a risky encounter in april with a transexual. I was bottom ( no protection )

I know it was a stupid thing to do, and the last six months have been the worst, and I don't think I will ever believe I am 100% Negative

Two weeks after encounter-
Developed a butterfly rash on my face that felt like sunburn.

Three weeks-
Came down with a fever, headache, chills, mild sore throat, sweats. This lasted for 24 hours.

Other symptoms include-

Sensitive skin,
Cuts , esp after biting nails taking a while to repair, and seem to get infected, but clear in the end.

At seven weeks, I had a 4th gen finger prick test, which was negative.

At thirteen weeks, the same test still negative.

Then at 22 weeks negative.

But I still can't get it out of my mind. I am married with a daughter and feel so guilty. I can't get close to my wife again just in case .

I still have the rash on my face, and was diagnosed with rocasea. It just seems strange that I get this rash, and that 24 hour fever, a couple of weeks after the encounter

My question is, if you have aimmunodeficiency disorder, would your test be false negative or false positive?

The reason why I ask is because the last three colds I have had, have gone straight to my chest, having to have two weeks of work each time. Also with my cuts slow of healing and sometimes getting infected (but still heals after a while)

Could I have a immunodeficiency that has not been diagnosed yet? I am terrified to go to the doctors, just in case I find that I am hiv positive, as my hiv tests were not from my doctors, but from a charity called Higgins trust UK

I made such a bad mistake, and I am paying for it. If there is any chance I am positive, I will take my life.

The stress of all of this has taken its toll.


I have recently been diagnosed with hiv about a month ago and all my past partners since having my daughter have been tested and they are all negative. How could this be?


who don't no fi you get it

AIDS how long it takes?

how many long it takes - ( years ) gets to manifest the AIDS( not the HIV)?

Unprotected gay love

You are doing great job!! Keep it up pls!

I have just found my love for life! Sadly he is HIV positive, but we have just discovered that 5 months ago.

Before he was tested, I had unprotected anal and oral sex with him. Sometime aggressive sex.

After he was tested positive I was sure that he infected me but we decided to stop sex actually he decided to stop sex because he loves me and asked me to test so I did at 10,16 and 20 weeks mark and the results were always negative. We are both very happy about my result!!! Now we are planning to get some consultancy on our sex life and move on.

But can I really rely on the 20 weeks mark negative test although my boy tested positive.

I love my boy soo much and would like to be with him healthy looking after him and loving him.

Thank you - Kiss

Sero discordant couple

my wife has just been diagnosed with HIV
I'm quite scared and still don't want to leave the relationship
How can I protect myself
She's on ARV right now and we are planning to have a baby


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NAT test at 4 months exposure negative result doctor advise for elisa test for further confirmation

I have had unprotected exposure with hiv positive undetectable viral load on december 2014, last exposure on feb 13, 2015 NAT test on March 20, 2015 negative result. No signs and symptoms except for occasional flu which lasted only for 5 days...was my NAT test still not confirmed about my hiv status?

help i'm stressing out after having unprotected anal sex

So I had unprotected anal sex 3 times with ejaculation with 3 different guys last year. I lost my virginity to one of them. I was told by all 3 of them that they were clean. after the 3rd guy(which was summer time), I got really scared and it was really really stupid of me that I didnt get tested. I didn't have sex till recently this week. Through the months of not having sex I did not have any symptoms of any sti/hiv. Recently I had sex with the guy who took my virginity again. I told him before having sex, that he should get a condom. But when we had sex, he did not use a condom and just went in without telling me and just ejaculated afterwards. I've been looking through google about hiv/sti's and I am panicking. I've scheduled to get tested next week and I just want to know that... If I get a positive is it too late to use PEP and if I get a negative how many times more can I get tested without having sex?.. I really hope to get an answer because im getting anxiety and thank you so much if I do.


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