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Dear AIDS Vancouver,

First off, I want to say how impressed I am by your website and its information.

I am a bisexual man and am trying to educate myself better on HIV prevention so I can have less anxiety about my sexuality and more empowerment to express it safely. There is so much info on the internet, and a lot of it is contradicting.

I have three questions for which I’m looking for thorough, research-based answers. (If you don’t mind just letting me know you’ve gotten this email, that would be great). To understand my questions, this is my experience: I met a guy recently, a stranger. He reports being HIV negative and on PREP but very sexually active. I stroked him for a few minutes but I’m not sure if he had pre-cum; he says he doesn’t think he did but is not sure. He did not ejaculate. He stroked me very briefly, I did not pre-cum or cum. That was it.

My questions:
1. Does my experience constitute as mutual masturbation in your terms? Smart Sex Resource says mutual masturbation is a low-risk activity but is more theoretical than real. How is mutual masturbation theoretically a way to pass HIV? Do you have any statistics on this specific sexual act and HIV transmission?
2. My biggest concern is that somehow his precum got into my urethra when he stroked me. Can HIV pass through the urethra this way? Are there any cases of this happening?
3. Some websites say HIV can only be passed into the bloodstream. Other websites I’ve read say that it can also get though a cell membrane. (I know this question is connected to question number two, but I want to understand the difference between membrane and blood as ways of transmission and if both are, in fact, ways HIV can pass to someone, ie the inside of the urethra).

The more detailed you can be, the better. I’m a scientific guy. If you want to send me papers, stats, or research on these questions, I’d appreciate that too.

I will happily become a donor for your organization as I am so impressed by what you do.

Thank you,

HIV risk from kissing - Please reply urgently

Hi. Thank you so much for all the work that you're doing. I live in Zimbabwe. I was with a girl yesterday. So as we met up, I went in for a kiss but as we kissed she nicked my lower lip accidentally. It was a very light bite, hardly noticeable..I did not sense any bleeding in my mouth, but I'm not sure. So now I'm afraid that if she had HIV and for some reason there was blood in her mouth it might have been absorbed through that same cut..I immediately spat out the saliva from the kiss and when I got home in 10 minutes I washed the area thoroughly with running water. I kept checking the area for a visible cut or abrasion there was nothing and kept running my tongue there..However after about 10 minutes I tasted a small tiny amount of blood. I dont know whether the blood was from the cut or because I had been licking my lips in the area and touching the area. But when I got home before washing I did not see any cut or bruising or redness

1. Can HIV be transmitted to me this way via a small superficial cut? The cut was not bleeding at the time of the bite but when I got home and started cleaning/rubbing the area I noticed a tiny amount of blood. Do I need to go and get PEP?
2. I read some stories about police officers being bitten by HIV positive people and being put on PEP now I'm so scared. I am just assuming that she had no blood in her mouth

NB* I asked her about her HIV status she says she was tested in June and is negative (I saw her report). She even offered us to go and get tested together. Do I have reason to worry..

I know you're very busy but I wanted a quick response so that I can go and get PEP if necessary...Please help!

Rubbing damp underwear with chapped fingers

I recently visited a strip club where I ended up getting a lap dance from a girl there. For a couple of minutes, I rubbed the outside of the her vagina with her underwear on the entire time. Her panties were initially dry, but they became a little damp by the time I stopped rubbing. I would not say they were "soaked" or very wet. I could "sense" the dampness with my fingers, but they didn't really feel wet while I was rubbing.

I realized after the dance that my fingers were chapped from the dry cold winter, and I had a crack that was about about 5mm long, a little red and deep. When I pull the cracked skin apart on my finger, I see red skin below but no bleeding.

As the girl and I talked some more, it sounds like might have been involved in some risky sexual activity, but I don't know her status.

Is it possible that if she were HIV positive that vaginal fluids containing the virus could make it through her underwear, into my cracked skin, and put me at risk?

Do I need PEP in this situation?

soccer and dried blood

hi, i'm have OCD and things like contact with dried blood kind of make me panic. I was playing soccer in a gymnasium when i noticed a dark red stain drop on the floor. It was kind of the outline of a drop of dried blood. I'm not sure how old it was, but my concern is that i stepped of it. If i did, would this mean that my shoe is now carrying HIV? Could my shoe pass it onto my hands when i it off? And if i went to the bathroom or something else immediately after that or got a cut, could i acquire hiv?
thank you

HIV through spit

Dear Experts

I went to a shop today. A man at the counter started talking to me, quite loudly for some reason, and his spit landed in my eye. It was not much, of course, because he did not spit on purpose, but I could feel it getting into my right eye. Am I at risk for HIV? Do I need to test for it at 3 months? What he has bleeding gums? I am so worried. Thank you

HIV infection bleeding cut on a hand

I would like to ask you advice. 2 days ago I was at the gym, and during my trainig I cut my middle finger. It was a bleeding cut, but I didnt notice it until I shaked the hands of some of my gymmates there with my bloody hand. My question is that is there any risk that I catch HIV if I shaking hands with a bleeding cut ? Maybe it's a silly questions, but I'm not expert in these things and I was scared a little bit.
Thank you and Best Regards, Balazs

Hiv from popping my pimple please read

Well this is a very weird story. So firstly there was this guy in my class he was biting his finger and I don’t know if he was bleeding. But today he did a fist bump and I had my glove on. What I am scared is that if he might have been bleeding, he seems like a dirty person. After I touched my gloves and popped my pimple. But there was no blood on my gloves. I am scared that there could of been blood residue ?? That could of infected into my body.

blood on the subway train

Hi, I was on an escalator in the metro when i noticed blood on the bottom of the ramp. I'm not sure if it was dry or not. If it was hiv+ and wet, and if my clothing touched it, and if i touched that part of my clothing (i did not see any blood on my hands) and then went to the bathroom, could i get anything?

Please answer me! Am I at risk for hiv?

I sent a question in recently but noticed it was not answered and I was hoping someone could please answer my question. I am worried about a bottle of lubricant I have that I am scared someone contaminated. I am worried that someone may have used a needle that is used for injecting (filled it up with bodily fluids, blood or sperm) and injected into my lubricant bottle. Then when I had sex my boyfriend used some lube and placed it on his penis and then in my vagina and I am worried that if someone did contaminate my lubricant by injecting bodily fluids in it, could hiv live in the bottle of lubricant and then infect me the way that I described? The person that I am worried about used to be a drug user and alcoholic and they were at my house as a guest and now I am worried for some reason that they went into my room and found my lubricant and injected something into it. I don't know why I am thinking like that probably because I am being irrational but I was wondering if that is a way of transmission and if this is something I need to be worried about? I am also worried that they touched my insulin needles that I use to inject insulin in my cat and am worried they did something to them. I accidentally poked myself prior to injecting insulin into my cat with one of my (new needles) that I am worried what if this person contaminated my needles.. They do have access to needles because they use them on their own diabetic cat and of course they were a drug user. Anyway do I need to be worried now about hiv or am I sounding irrational? Please tell me the truth. Can you catch hiv in any of the scenarios I asked and do you think I need to throw away the bottle of lube now and should not use it? Keep in mind this person as far as I know did not go into my room and opening up drawers to find this bottle of lube that I know of but for some reason my mind is worried that they did this. Please let me know if I am at risk? Can hiv live in bottles of lube that have a cap? Do you think I need to be worried that they found my cats insulin needles and started poking themselves with them or injecting bodily fluids into them with the hope that I accidentally poke myself or do I sound really irrational? I never saw them going through any of my stuff including touching my cats insulin needles that I actually hid because I knew they were coming over and I just forgot to hide the lube bottle but that was away in my room in a drawer but I did not see them or anyone go upstairs. Please answer me as soon as possible! Am I at risk, should I throw away my lube, do you think my cats insulin needles are contaminated? Sorry for the questions I am really stressed out.


Hello,I’ve pierced my ears many years ago but yesterday found that I couldn’t wear earings because I hadn’t used earings for long time and my ears holes were closed and had tiny layer of skin on their.so i used my earings to open the holes and it caused bleeding and inflammation. I’m not sure that those earings and my hands were clean or not,but I’m sure nobody use my earings at least for 2 days.so am i at any risk?thank you so much


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