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The perfect storm: Unprotected receiving, HSV, and confessed HIV+ encounter. Anxiety to say the least and begging for help.

Instead of a long, self-sorrow oriented message, I'll simply state the facts and ask for your opinion. Thank you ahead of time for both your time and effort - and please know, your thoughts are greatly appreciated.
I'm bi and didn't have a bi experience for a LONG time - until 8 days ago. I ended-up at a guy's house I met, naked on his bed, and in the throws of passion, made what amounts to the biggest, irresponsible, selfish mistake of my entire life.
I asked several times before we engaged in sexual activity - "No, I'm HIV negative". We exchanged oral, he was inside of me for about 2-3 minutes (unprotected but not rough) and did not ejaculate inside of me. However, he had a fair amount of precum during oral and I'll assume as much when he entered me anally. We finished by masturbating on each other. I showered and left - mad at myself already but had no idea what was coming my way the following day.
The next morning, I received a message from him: "Hey, I know you asked many times about my HIV status and I know you left really concerned about our activities. So, I got you a bottle of Truvada just to ease your mind". I  knew what he was saying but afraid to say. I called him immediately and asked again - and again he stated he was HIV negative. But after informing him of the legal consequences of not informing me if he was in fact HIV positive, he eventually admitted to being just that, HIV positive.
The world stopped and went dim.
The facts:
1 - HIV negative (me) as of 5/2012 and no exposure risks within 6 months prior or afterwards.2 - HSV2 positive. Acyclovir for outbreaks. Last outbreak was about a week prior to the above encounter. The two sores were healed before above encounter.3 - The guy I had the encounter with stated he was diagnosed in 1999 and has been compliant with meds and undetectable since 2001. His last labs: March 2012 - CD4 383, viral load undetectable. States no known comorbidities (STI's or otherwise).4 - I started Truvada 18 hours after exposure and have taken my 8th dose today. I have taken the doses within a 2-hour window of the initial dosing time and have not missed a day. I also have a full 28 day supply.5 - Today, I experienced a prodromal HSV symptom.
1. Given the above scenario/facts, how would you rate my level of acquiring HIV? Unprotected sex, me being the receptive partner, precum, me having HSV - all increase my risk; partner being undetectable, med compliant, no other comorbidities, he did not ejaculate inside of me - all decrease my risk. But my brain is weighted with anxiety, stress, and confusion. . .having someone else spell it out for me is really, to be blunt, exactly what I need to gain just a little clarity/sanity.
2. With the prodromal symptom occurring today, I want to take my normal Acyclovir dose. Should I take Acyclovir with Truvada? My renal/liver functions are all WNL - my main concern revolves around Acyclovir decreasing the efficacy of Truvada?
3. Is Truvada the best/only med I should be on at the moment?
Again, thank you so much. I don't know if any of you have been in this position before - but simply having someone to ask questions to is a heart saving service you guys provide.

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