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The risks of sex with unknown people

In previous questions you said that whom you had sexual activity isn't important, but the activity itself. I agree in part because in my particular case I didn't pay atenttion to one activity, that is my sex partner willing with mens rea reversed the condom we were using in a vaginal sex. I can't forgive myself, this evil woman ruined my life. I can't say for sure if I'm infected but a person close to this evil person talked to her and she said she did reverse the condom, rubbed my pennis vigourously to creat a entry path to the vírus. I known it's not a common situation, I, among the billions of people in this planet have the bad luck to meet this person and now I'll pay for the rest of my life for my poor jugdgement at that time. Finally I would like to alert the risks of sex with unknown people because sometime one think that a condom could protect against hiv and other stds but it's not always true, that is, if you don't know with who you are, what intentions that person has, don't take this risk, do what I didn't do, run away.

protected sex, unprotected rubbing

hi, two months ago, i had sex with a girl. I am a male...she started rubbing the tip of my penis on her clitoris which was very wet...i did not have a condom on but i realized i should put one on. I proceeded to have sex with her with a condom but what im really worried about is the fact that she rubbed the tip of my penis on her clitoris while it was wet...is it possible to contract hiv in that manner? two weeks later i started feeling sick..i had a alot of weakness and body aches...i am a bit scared about it...

Body Massage and HIV

)I am a male, age 37. A week back, I had a body massage from a male masseur. We did NOT indulge in Sexual Intercourse. He did NOT give me a blow job. Neither did I. However, he gave me a handjob. He sucked my armpits. And kissed once (Little deep kiss). He tries to tease my testicles with his tongue but I stopped him immediately.
Am I at the risk of HIV? and or STI? Please help.

bleeding hand and HIV positive semen.

Hello Everyone,

I really need some professional help and your help is much appreciated.
My hands are really really dry with a lot of red scratches cuts from the cold weather(I also have a dermatological skin condition where my skin is so dry that it opens and bleeds in different places of my body). They bleed and stop bleeding a lot during the day, depending if I touch them or rub them.
Im a gay male not out yet and a bit scared of getting sexual with men. I went to a bath house today (gay sauna), I usually don’t touch anyone because of my hands condition, I just like to walk around and watch people. I watched a guy masterbate, as soon as he ejaculated, he ejaculated on his hand and I have no idea why he touched my hand directly. I freaked out because I might be bleeding, I put the towel directly on my hand to see if there was blood, and yes a patch of dry skin was bleeding, basically my towel had a lot of small dots of blood on it. I washed my hand directly and that patch of dry skin kept on bleeding for 20 minutes.

The issue is once he ejaculated he had semen on his hand, and touched my BLEEDING hand skin directly, so his semen touched my blood.

I spoke to the man and found out that he is HIV positive, I made sure of this information through someone else there and indeed he is HIV positive. He was helpful and told me to go to the hosipital directly.
My friend is a nurse at a hospital and she says I need to go to the emergency room and get my situation checked and she told me to insist on take treatment (PEP – post exposure that’s what she called it). She told me because the towel did not have just one drop of blood it had a lot more, which means that my skin was open and actively bleeding.

I am REALLY WORRIED scared I feel numb.. please tell me whats my risk from this situation. What shall I do at the moment ? am I infected ?
Thanks a lot for all your work and help here.

Toilet Water Splash on cut?

I was using a public toilet. And when I flushed it, the water got on my cut on my anus. And after that, I noticed there were some body fluids in the toilet water. I'm not sure how long ago the person went into that restroom before me. Do I have a chance of getting any STDs or HIV ?

Do I need HIV testing?

Hello I had a sex with a sex worker 2 days ago. She was practicing safe sex. She gave me oral with condom on. She did not allow me to give her oral. We had used condom with lubricant during intercourse and it did not break off. However, she gave me the condom and I am not sure whether it was latex or not. Do I need HIV testing in 3 months?

bitter mouth

i have a bitter mouth for 2 weeks and more after having oral sex with a woman just licking her for 20 mins,she has hiv,but we did not have sex or have any deep kissing,it was later she told me before that a month ago i had a hiv test which was negative,after 3 days later i had bitter mouth so i went to pharmacy to buy amoxsaslin tablet,but still i have a bitter taste in mouth do i have hiv or its just std and have to go to hospital for treatment or get better piscribtion from pharmacy

do i have STI??

I recently had my first sex with a callgirl. i used condom to have sex. we didnot have oral sex but we did kiss on several occasions..after 3-4 days , I have pain in my left testicle or scrotum(i dont know) and the left scrotum is swollen... I dont know if its a symptom of STI or something else...I guess this is chlamydia symptom...But I am surprised how i can get infected when i used condom ? And if I do have chlamydia ,,it means I might be prone to HIV as well because having chlamydia means my condom didnot do its job. I hope to get an answer as soon as you can .
Thanks in advance

HIV Risk

Hi all,

I would be grateful for any advice. Last week I had unprotected sex with a woman I met for the first time. I had been drinking and in the heat of the moment I failed to take precautions. The intercourse lasted no longer than 3 minutes, in truth I would be surprised if it lasted longer than one minute, I ejaculated inside her (not worried about pregnancy as she assured me she is on the pill), later (minutes after we had finished) she got her period.

In the past outside of relationships I’ve always been careful so I’ve never worried about HIV or passing it on to someone. It would be entirely hypocritical of me to be judgemental, but as she never asked me to take precautions I presume that she has not asked other partners to do the same. With that in mind I’m very worried that she could have picked up something that I may have caught. Short of her behaviour with me I’ve no reason to think that she may have anything. This week I’ve been so overwhelmed with worry that I felt I had to ask her if she had anything and her recent sexual history. She said that the last two people before me she had unsafe sex with were her partner of 5 years (who she split up with in December) and before that the father of her son. She said that while she has slept with other men since, she has always used protection until me as while she took a lot of risks before having her child (in the UK women are tested for HIV when they are pregnant) he was too important to her to do so again and that she has no STDs.

Additionally, I’m not sure if this is relevant but she also told me she has suffered from Endometriosis since she was 16 (she is now 31) and recently has had a full insertive pelvic exam and smear tests relating to this. I know only the HIV test actually checks for the virus but I presume other STDs are visible during the exam and come up in some of the tests. Could these tests give doctors an inclination if she was suffering from HIV? I mean if for instance her white blood cell count was low etc could that be cause for further query on the doctors part.

I have had friends who have had similar mistakes in the past and picked up things like Herpes and Chlamydia, when I googled for them I found HIV. I have read that it is unlikely for the penetrative partner in vaginal sex to pick up the virus but it’s a chance I’ll never take again if I’m lucky enough to avoid HIV this time. It may sound silly but at the moment I’m really unconcerned about having picked up other STDs from her – HIV seems to put them all into perspective. In terms of symptoms I’ve been so anxious that I’m interpreting everything in a really scary way. I have had a bruise from the gym, a red mark from leaning on my arm and a spot which I have attributed to HIV only for them to disappear within minutes or hours. Since the second day it happened throat has been mildly uncomfortable – particularly when I think about it, and I’m worried it could be a sign of the virus but I am hoping it is stress or even a common cold. I have a spot on the skin between my testicles and penile shaft, I called another STD nurse when I noticed and she told me this was not a symptom of HIV. My temperature does not appear to be fluctuating, although I know many people with HIV do not have symptoms.

I’m from Scotland in the UK and the women I had sex with was not African/Eastern European or a sex worker (not trying to offend anyone, those are just higher risk categories in the UK, along with men who have sex with men from what I have read). Nor is she an intra venus drug user. A sexual health nurse I spoke to on the phone said it was very unlikely that the woman would have HIV and even more unlikely that I’d pick it up…A volunteer on the phones of the Terence Higgins Trust (UK based HIV charity) had already said a similar thing to me but I just thought it would be worthwhile asking here. I

I wondered if more learned people than myself could answer a few questions. Firstly – does the length of contact matter? I understand that HIV can be passed the first time you come into contact with someone or may not be passed after 100 times, but I wasn’t sure if the length of time was a factor. Also, if she was menstruating while we had intercourse would that increase the likelihood of me picking up something? Finally I wondered how long I should wait before I get a test. I’ve heard of 11 day tests but when I spoke to the nurse/THT they suggested it was more common to wait a month for the first (and generally conclusive) test. I've also read that the 11 day RNA test has a high rate of false positives and I wondered if that was why it was generally only used for those who have almost definitely come into contact with HIV.

This has really worried me and I feel like it is the biggest mistake of my life. I feel like I have anxiety issues for worrying this much but I feel like I need to know as much as I can. I've managed to persuade the woman I had sex with to come with me for a Rapid HIV test next week, which if she's telling the truth about no unprotected sex, should reveal if I'm in danger (obviously I'll still go for further tests to be sure).

Thank you very much for taking the time to read this, I’m very grateful for any advice and answers anyone can offer.

about accuracy and window period hiv test

Respected sir,
I had a unprotected sex with a familier lady 4 months ago . I have some warts in my genital area so a visited skin specialist he suggested for hiv and vdrl test . i did both test both are non-reactive after nearly 3.5 months possible exposure . but still he adviced me to retest again after 3 months ...
My warts are coming back . i am taking treatement against it . but i am in big fear and depression becuase of fear from hiv
is test after 3 months is conclusive? . what is relation between warts and HIV ? Plz plz plz plz guid me . i am still in depression . my family life get disturbed plz plz plz guid me about above question


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