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Multiple escorts - Hiv risk?

Hi there,
This is my 2nd month of research on HIV. During this time, I cannot stress enough the anxiety and stress I am going through. More below. So I need your answer please as quick as possible.

I am a 32 year old Indian male working in Kuwait. FYI, I am circumcised. I use e-cigarettes and vape constantly. Not a hard drinker.
I got tested for HIV, hepatitis and other diseases 6 months ago and all came back negative. All good. Now to the worrying part.

I have been seeing escorts for at least 4 years now. Regularly. Always the method is the same, UNprotected oral and FULLY protected vaginal sex. Always.
In the last 2 months, I dont know what got into me, but I ended up seeing 13 escorts. These are online escorts (NOT STREET) and high priced escorts. I think 9 of them were russians and 4 of them were Vietnamese/Asian. Same method, unprotected oral, protected vaginal sex with condom and proper lubrication. Never any anal sex.

In the last 3 weeks, I ran a fever for 3 days which cleared up, had dry cough and sore throat for 2 weeks. The sore throat changed to mornings only and seemed to clear up as the day progressed. I used to cough up yellow phlegm and have hoarse voice in the mornings only as soon as I wake up. I had 2 small tiny tiny red pimples on my left chest for 2 days which cleared up, FYI I usually get these at times. I had one canker sore on my right upper lip (I have had canker sores before too), followed by 3 separate nights with night sweats during the fever (not continuous nights). I had 2 days of sinus like localized headache where head ache increased when I sniff up through my nose. My job involves staring at a laptop screen for 12-14 hours a day. I had 3 days where I was very tired and sleepy. 3 separate nights, I had a pin and tingling feeling in my right hand while I slept, which I think is because I slept on my hand which went away in a few seconds when I adjusted my hands. Just putting it all out there.

I am so worried that I went back to most of these escorts to confirm their HIV status and all of them said they check once in 3 months and are all healthy.

I dont have any swollen nodes anywhere and no rashes of any kind. I feel all ok now apart from the slight dry throat in the morning which goes away after a glass of water.

I have been researching about this for a long time and I am scared to go in for a hiv test. And very anxious.
I keep reading that receiving oral is an almost 0 chance of HIV transmission and only theoretically possible, and I am pretty sure that all those escorts had well kept oral hygiene.
In fact, 2 of the escorts snapped at me and said: ''We are more scared of all this than you and we go in for regular tests!!! If you are this scared, dont come back!''.

Please let me know my chance of getting infected with HIV or something else taking into account all the above info.

Pls pls reply

Hello everyone, you all are doing great job addressing the concerns of worried people, thanks all sorry my english is not well if
So, coming to my worry
60 days back I visited a night club with my friends and was standing with my male friend in the club a club girl came and stood in between us and my friend was bit engaged with her and also starting fingring her vagina and all of sudden he touched my neck from behind which i was having few nail scratches 6 hours before my concern is if he has vaginal fluid or vaginal fluid mixed with blood on his hand and touched my recent scratches would there will be a zero risk of hiv transmission? , i am worried as i got rashes on my chest area after 2 weeks and feeling of nausea,i also got hiv card test after 34 days from the event the results were non reactive, should i go for further testing kindly help very much worried

first week

I'm a male 25 years old. 4 days ago I had unprotected sex with a girl that I do not know. I had sex on Saturday, on Sunday I felt tired and on Monday I felt the same thing but on Tuesday, I had a bad fever, Sore throat, body ache and my neck in pain, and little headache, on Wednesday, the fever is gone but I felt tired and still have Sore throat. however, on Thursday,
i am feeling way better nobody pain no neck pain no fever and no sore throat

can HIV symptoms show in 3 days to 4 days after the sex?
do you think there a chance i have HIV?

thank you

unprotected fellatio

Dear Doctor, I'm a male from Romania and I'm 52 years old.
About one month ago I had got a fellatio from a prostitute.
I had some inflamation on my penis and the oral was about 30 seconds.
She had some signs on her back.
After 11 days I had a sore throat which it hasn't even passed now.
What should I do? I think a have HIV.
Please answer me.

HIV Odds


I recently decided to experiment with having a sexual encounter with a man, I used a dating app (Grindr) on his profile it said he was HIV Negative and that he was on PreEP. I also asked him if he was clean when he got to my place, he said he was clean and that he gets tested every 2-3 months. We ended up giving each other unprotected oral sex,he didn't finish and I didn't finish but I do think he did pre-cum in my mouth a little, I had brushed my teeth like 30 min- to 60 min before oral. A day after the event I started getting a sore throat and currently have a sore throat 4 days later, and I feel like im always tired. I messaged him again and asked if he was clean, he said that he had gotten tested 2 months ago and he was clean and I was the first person he has been with since getting tested. I still am very paranoid and I feel like there is always a chance that he could be lying to me. So after the story I have some questions:

Is getting a sore throat normal after oral sex? or could it be something else?

How likely is it that I caught HIV from him?

When should I get tested for HIV?

19 years

Around 19 years ago, I had a sexual encounter with another guy of unknown
status. No anal intercourse, just mutual masturbation and unprotected oral
sex. He cum on my face resulting some of his semen splashed on my lips and
mouth, which I spat. At the point I thought that any CBC would include hiv
test so I have been tested blood every two-three years since the incident,
all my White cell count and lymphocite cellcount have result in normal range
since them, all other parametres as well. After that encounter I always had
safer sex ( mutual masturbation and sometimes protected anal intercourse,
wirh me being the insertive). However, I can remebme that after few months of
that incident ( 3 or four months) I started feelings my lymph nodes become
enlarged ( That ist hereasonI tested the first time, I thought any blood test
would include hiv test). Obviosly on my CBC result a bout hiv, which did not
appeared so I asume It was negative ( mistake) and all parametres were in
range. After that I decided to get a CBC more frequently. All parametres has
been ok ,even my GP has congratulated my because all the results.
The point is that I realised few months ago that a simple CBC does not
include hiv test, and I rembember that a few months after the incident suffer
several lymh nodes in neck and armpit during almost one year.
As I have said after that I always practiced safer sex ( mutual masturbation
and occasionally protected insertive anal sex), so I guess my only risk
exposure was the one I related. It ispossible to be infected and asymptomatic
after almost that period oftime.

for god sake please help me

In 2013, i did unprotected vaginal sex with a commercial sex worker.
After three months i got sick for 21 days it was all unexplained.
After 6 months, i got gastritis and still have it.
in Jan 2014 i got phyrengitis and still have it.
in 2015 i got facial parotid burning and still have it.
in Dec 2015 i got ear blockage problem and still have it
in 2016 my back got sensitive to air , its a burning kind of sensation and still have it and later in the same year i got chest pain issue and still have it, its one of my very bad symptoms which has disturbed my whole life.
in 2017 i used to get the cervical pain, when doctors did MRI, they showed something called up cervical lymphadenopathy and still have it..

i have had no other exposure after this incident other than my wife.

so all my issues i mentoined above phyrengitis, ear blockage, parotid heaviness and parotid burning, back burning, chest pain and cervical lymphadenopathy .. they all still persists and have disturbed the quality of my life.. specially my chest pain, cervical lymphadenopathy and parotid burning.

I did test for HIV via 4th gen Eclia test in 2013 - 3 months post exposure negative.
again HIV test via 4th gen Eclia test in 2013 - 8 month post exposure negative.
Tested 16 months in 2014 via Ehanced Chemlum - negative
Tested at somewhere in 2015 via Elisa - negative, my test range was 0.2453 , cutoff value 1.

in 2014 i got married and my wife has become so weak ever since after marrying me, she got the nails problem and After a year to our married she got measles and now she has got the kidney problem.

i have developed so many neurological problems now.. i swear i never used to go to the doctor or never got that much of sick and now whatever is problem is diagnosed, its becoming permanent ... doctors are unable to resolve. i never told my doctors about my HIV exposure to confuse them.

do i need any other test? to be honest i am so much afraid to go for the testing now..

Negative results but anxiety & symptoms

Hello ,
I had an exposure due to broken condom in Feb-2019.
I was tested several times negative - 1 week, 6 weeks, 10 weeks & 13 weeks after the exposure.
The test was 4th generation Duo test in the lab.

I have symptoms such as persistent sore throat , neck pain & burning sensation in the skin.
I never had these symptoms before the exposure.
No fever , my weight is stable.

Whenever, I get a symptom, my mind goes straight to HIV.
Should I still be concerned with HIV ?

please advice.

Hiv Scare


Thank you so much for the works you do.

I have been dating my girl friend for the last 2 months. Intially she had resisted going for an hiv test but last week we both visited a health facility to get tested. She turned out Positive while I was Negative.

I guarantee that I used a latex condom 100% in all the penetrative sexual intercourse I had with my girlfriend. The number of rounds were about 20 in a period of two months.

The earlier symptoms of joint and muscle arches, heel pains, lower back pain have reduced greatly.

Now I face new symptoms like a persistent headache, I feel heat in my armpits, a bit of night sweats and congested nostrils without any flu. My neck pains have persisted.

I took an HIV DNA PCR test this week and hoping to get my results in two weeks time. I will share. Y results with you immediately.

Kindly let me know what you think about my new symptoms? Can HIV go through an expired condom? (Am not saying I used one, am only asking)

I used a latex condom all the way through, I didn't see any of the condoms break, leak or slip. These symptoms are freaking me out.

Please be honest dnt sugarcoat anything give me the truth so I can get a remedy.

God Bless you for helping people like us.

Thank you
Best Regards


Going insane

I am from Bangladesh.
have some stupid mistakes in my life and I
am paying heavily for this Episode. #1
october 29,2014 I had protected vaginal sex
with a female csw.I also french kissed
her.Later found the girl HIV +.After 5 weeks I
experienced severe flue type illness.Swollen
lymph nodes under jaw and neck,loose
stool,hedeach,severe muscle and joint
pain,rash on both arm. I have tested after 3
months with 3rd generation rapid test,after 5
months with 3rd generation elisa, after 6.5
months with 3rd generation rapid test.All are
negative. 2# July
16 2017 I had protected oral and protected
vaginal sex with a female csw.Dont know
why? Vaginal part only lasted 10-15
seconds.The girl seemed a consistent
condom user.No real symptom aftee 1-4
weeks. Episode 3 # October 17 2017 I had
protected vaginal sex with a csw.She offered
me to have sex without a condom for extra
charge.But she assured me she gets tested
every month. Now you are thinking whats the
real problem.Actually Im experiencing the
symptom of overt aids.Lose of appetite,Loosing
weight,fatigue, dizziness ,swollen lymph
nodes,loose stool,nail
fungus,clubbing nail are
making my life hell.I have been loosing weight before my 2nd exposure.I haven't been tested for 2nd and 3rd exposure. I
dont know what to do? I cry and pray to
God.Ive ruined my life.In my country HIV stigma is very deep and like a death sentence.


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