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Asian massage parlor visit


Hello, a year back I bisite an asian massage parlor in San francisco. The lady was mid to late 30's and from Vietnam, she spoke English pretty well. After a rub on my body she slipped a condom on my member using her mouth, she then performed oral for about 3-5 min, then went to vaginal with the same condom on. The next morning I noticed a little red spot on a gland on my shaft that I'm not 100% sure was covered or was where the condom band was tight on and was irritating it, it could have been scrapped by a razor because I had shaved 5 hours before the visit to the amp. I rubbed it with alcohol and I didn't feel any sting so I'm unsure of what it was. It went away after 3 days. But I got tested for HIV and syphillis 7 days after exposure, and then again 30 days after exposure. All tests came back negative. Since its been a year, I can't help but freak out whenever I catch a cold or a flu or even get a symplex blister. Are my tests conclusive? My doctor didn't recommend a 3 month test. Please help me. Thank you


Hello and thanks for reaching out to the AIDS Vancouver Helpline.

It's great that you used a condom while receiving oral sex and engaging in sexual intercourse since, this is the most reliable way to reduce the risk of HIV transmission. When a condom is used, it protects the head of your penis from being exposed to the body fluids of your partner. We know that if there is no internal exchange of body fluids, there is no way for HIV to enter the bloodstream. So, if the condom did not break during these activities, there seems to be no chance that transmission happened.

  • We are not sure what kind of HIV test you took at 7 days post-exposure or at 30 days after exposure. However, Canadian guidelines suggest that antibody tests are most reliable when carried out between 28 days and 84 days post-exposure. You've mentioned it has been a year since this exposure happened and that you are still worrying about the symptoms you are experiencing. We would suggest re-testing at any time it is convenient for you since, it has been more than 3 months after your exposure and test results will be considered conclusive at this time. That way, you will be able to say for sure, whether your symptoms are related to HIV or not.

  • The activities you engaged in are unlikely to pass on HIV, since a condom was used. It seems very unlikely that the test results you have received already will change, with no new exposures.

We hope the information included helps you decide how to move forward and, provides you with some relief. Thanks again, for reaching out to the AIDS Vancouver Helpline.



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