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Question: 

One of my close friends has had 5 weeks of hell. I will try to summarize it as it has been explained to me on an almost daily basis:
He went to a classy erotic massage parlor, where the masseuse did "sex imitation" during a handjob - she sat across him facing him (naked) while holding his penis, and rubbing it for a few seconds. She then turned around and did the same. He is confident that there was no genital-to-genital contact. She then got off him and finished the handjob (he eventually ejaculated). The next day he developed pressure in the perineum area, and went to see a urologist, who after conducting some tests, diagnosed him with an inflamed prostate and prescribed him with antibiotics. The pressure subsided within a couple of days, but he called me in a flat panic when he then developed "discomfort" at the tip of his penis. Apparently it only lasted a couple of days. He then went onto another course of the same antibiotics (Augmentin - not sure of dosage). He also went for various tests after 10 days - chlamydia PCR, HIV early detection, syphilis, herpes, UTI - all negative. He has done a host of follow up tests since - including HIV PCR (think it was after 22 days) and HIV ELISA combi (after 28 days). All negative. He then went onto a course of Ciprobay antibiotics. I also think he has quite frankly become a little obsessed with lymph nodes, and has had these checked several times a week - all normal. He told me that the penis pain has come back (after 35 days), but he can't tell whether it is on the outside or inside. He has had no other symptoms such as discharge, testicle pain, rash, fever, etc. I told him that he should calm down, as he has probably done more than enough testing by now, but he is quite panicked that this penis pain has returned after 35 days. What do you think?

Answer: 

Hi there and thank you for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Online Helpline.

I think I just answered the question posted by your friend, here is the answer I gave him:

I have good news for you, non-insertive masturbation (such as a handjob) is considered to be no risk of acquiring HIV. Your partner sitting on you while naked would also be no risk. There is no risk of acquiring HIV from the sexual experience you described.

In regards to the symptoms you've been experiencing, at AIDS Vancouver we do not go by symptoms as an indicator of HIV. This is because symptoms can be present for any number of reasons that are not related to HIV so it is impossible to tell if they are related to HIV or not. It sounds like you're on the right track by partnering with your doctor to figure out the cause of your symptoms.

For more information about STI's you can visit www.smartsexresource.com.

For more information about HIV you can always visit the AIDS Vancouver website or check out CATIE.org.

I hope this information helps to answer your questions.

Isla (Volunteer)

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