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French kiss with HIV +


Ahhhhh I am probably over reacting but need some objective advice from experts. Last night I met a guy at a bar. We went back to his place and start to make out - French kiss - only for a couple of minutes. I stopped and asked him his status only because I wasn't sure where this was going - regarding STDs in general and HIV. I tested last month and was negative for everything. He admitted he was positive. We stopped kissing, chatted, drank some wine and I closed mouth kissed him good bye. I hadn't brushed my teeth since the morning and as far as I know, he wasn't bleeding or had any open sores (I got not sense of that) I want to assess my risk, if I should be worried or just relax. Thanks!


Good morning, Thank you for using AIDS Vancouver as a source for HIV/AIDS related information. The simple answer to your question is no, you are not at risk for HIV and here's why: From what I understand from your posting, the only activity you engaged in was open mouth kissing which is considered a no risk activity. The saliva in your mouth contains an enzyme which actually inhibits the transmission of HIV. Furthermore, neither of you referred to having any blood presence which would slightly increase the risk, however, due to the enzyme in your saliva it would still be considered an extremely low risk. I think it's important to address the stigma of this situation. Might I suggest that you could've continued to open mouth kiss with no worry of HIV transmission. There are many couples where one is negative and one is positive and they have been able to keep it that way. You might also discuss with this gentleman what type of antiretroviral drugs he's taking as well as his viral load. If it is undetectable, it greatly reduces any chance of HIV. By the way, we congratulate you for being responsible and taking the time to ask some serious questions of the guy you just met, this is a great way to reduce the possibility of HIV transmission. For further information, please visit our website as all areas of your concern are addressed on the site and is a very reliable source of information: www.aidsvancouver.org I trust that I've answered your question and put your mind at ease, however, should you have any further questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to contact us again.


Alia, AIDS Vancouver Helpline Volunteer