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I feel like I am over reacting but I'm hoping you can give me an answer to calm me down.

Recently I meet up with 2 guys from tinder (different times).

The first guy I met rubbed his penis between my cheeks. What I'm worried about is if he may have had precum which would have landed on my anus. Also, he wanted me to put the head of my penis on his anus, but I never inserted. I also fingered him for less than a minute. Does that pose a risk for me?

With the second guy, we both gave each other hand jobs. At one point, he played with his penis and then came back to mine. If he had precum on his hand and then grabbed my penis, is that a concern?



Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about rubbing the penis onto the anus, fingering, and non-mutual masturbation. From the information given, this scenario is determined to be Negligible Risk (There are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission).

HIV transmission requires bodily fluid that contains HIV having direct access to the bloodstream through a high risk activity.

The sexual acts of rubbing the penis onto the anus without insertion as well as fingering both are considered to be Negligible Risk activities. These activities pose a potential for HIV transmission because they both involve the exchange of bodily fluids. There has not been a confirmed report of HIV acquisition through these specific activities.

Non-mutual masturbation or hand jobs are considered to be No Risk. When a bodily fluid does not have direct access to the bloodstream it creates time for the HIV to become inactive. Pre-cum travelling onto a person's hand then being transferred onto the penis creates a barrier for HIV. There needs to be a significant amount of pre-cum in order for enough bodily fluid containing HIV to be transmitted to yourself.

Recommendation: There are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission refer to Physician for more personalized answers.


AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Danielle