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Question: 

I am from Bangladesh.Have some stupid mistakes in my life and I Am paying heavily for this Episode. #1 October 29,2014 I had protected vaginal sex With a female csw.I also french kissed Her.Later found the girl HIV +.After 5 weeks I Experienced severe flue type illness.Swollen Lymph nodes under jaw and neck, loose Stool, hedeach,severe muscle and joint Pain,rash on both arm. I have tested after 3 Months with 3rd generation rapid test,after 5 Months with 3rd generation elisa, after 6.5 Months with 3rd generation rapid test.All areNegative. Episode #2 November 17 2015 I Was with a female csw.. We were fully Naked.The girl offered me to have Unprotected sex with her.As far as I can Recall I didn't penetrate the girl but my penis Came close to her vagina.Now my mind says If I penetrated the girl without my knowing Though I didn't feel anything. Episode #3 July 16 2017 I had protected oral and protected Vaginal sex with a female csw.Dont know Why? Vaginal part only lasted 10-15 Seconds.The girl seemed a consistent Condom user.No real symptom aftee 1-4 Weeks. Episode 4 # October 17 2017 I had Protected vaginal sex with a csw.She offered Me to have sex without a condom for extra Charge.But she assured me she gets tested Every month. Now you are thinking what's the Real problemActually Im experiencing the Symptom of overt aids.Lose of appetite,Losing Weight,fatigue, dizziness ,swollen lymph Nodes,loose stool,stomach upset,nailFungus,clubbing nail and slight dementia are Making my life hell. I Don't know what to do? Everybody says I didn't learn from my first mistake.So,I have to face the consequence.I am feeling hopeless.I have nobody whom I can share with the situation. I haven't tested for second third and fourth exposure.

Answer: 

Hello,

Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about your risk of HIV acquisition with each of your four exposures.

From our understanding, you took responsible safety measures in protecting yourself and each of your partners. By practicing safe and protected sex (both oral and vaginal) you have significantly lowered your risk of HIV transmission. For this reason, each of these scenarios are considered to be low risk (evidence of transmission occurs through these activities when certain conditions are met). With each of these scenario's being assessed at low risk, we would have recommended you refer to a physician for an HIV test. However, because you were again responsible in seeking a 3rd Generation test with multiple follow ups which returned negative, you could consider the testing results from your first exposure to be conclusive. The sensitivity and specificity of these tests approaches 100 percent for diagnosing chronic infection as early as three weeks after exposure to the virus (1).

It can be difficult to attribute each or all of the symptoms you have been experiencing to the early stages of HIV acquisition without adequate HIV testing. With this in mind, we recommend further testing for your second, third, and fourth exposures just as you responsibly did following your first exposure. Please refer to your physician for this additional testing.

Regards, AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Cody