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I lost my virginity a month ago.


So about a month ago I lost my virginity to a guy (I'm an 18 year old male) and I had unprotected gay sex with the individual.
Where I had swallowed his semen and he ejaculated in my rectum. The person I did it with was an honest person who I still trust, however I'm no longer together with them.
However I've been worrying, after finding out subjects like that he never used a condom and is okay with freind with benefits relationships.
He woudln't lie to me, he's not that type of person I know that, but I'm still worried...

My overall knowledge about hiv and everything is bad, mainly cause before finding out I was gay I didn't think really care about it much.
Should I still get tested? I've just never done it.
Thank you for your time.



Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you are asking about the risk associated with unprotected anal sex. From the information given, this scenario is determined to be high risk (evidence of transmission through these activities and is the majority of cases of transmission), as there is an exchange of bodily fluid and direct access to the bloodstream.

We would highly recommend you speak to your physician about getting tested for HIV. We would also recommend asking your physician about PrEP/PEP (pre/post-exposure prophylactics), as these may be useful to you in the future.

This is a hard situation, so if you are having any anxiety we would also recommend speaking to someone you trust about your situation, or reaching out to a crisis line (see links below).

Thank you, and take care,

AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Sara