Hello, my name Roger I'm 34 years old, divorced and healthy.
I have always had a girlfriend, a female companion and sometime ago I got divorced. Now-a-days, I work a lot, and I do not have a partner. I have always been a sexual active person, since I was a teenager. Now, as I don't have any sexual intercourse. I think I still produce a lot of sperm and I, somehow try to expulse it through many different ways. I did not pay too much attention to it but sometimes it hurts and it is so uncomfortable. Most of the times I expulse sperm after I do pee and once, I bleed a little after urination and it hurted, I got an infection. Concerned, I went to the Doctor, he told me that it was totally normal as I had accumulated too much sperm and that this might produce infections. I drank antibiotics for 2 days and the infection disappeared and the bleeding stopped completely. The Urologist told me to masturbate, and it wont be a big deal, however I am not a teenager and this might work just as a temporary alternative for me. Months after the bleeding, I felt such pain that I went to the bathroom rushing, in the middle of my work shift, because I felt like having diarrhea, pain and an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach and
I am young, but I work too much, and although I have tried, I haven't found a partner yet. Moreover, I am not an irresponsible or mindless person but I need to be with a woman.
I have been thinking about how can this be possible without the risk of contracting a sexual disease. I talked to a lady who offered me massages and handjobs for money. I bought condoms, latex gloves, massage creams, etc, and I am thinking about telling her not to undress while being together to avoid any risk.
Please Can you help me with my questions, they are,
Is it ok to receive massages and handjobs (only) from this unknown lady, without being exposed to a risk ? Do you have any recommendation or advice ? Am I overreacting about this ? Are gloved massages and handjobs safe ?
Thank you very much in advance I appreciate your help a lot.
PS: I have been researching about my sperm overload and I found out that Doctors recommend to eyaculate at least 5 times a week in order to avoid infections and possible problems with the prostate.
Hope I have described this well
Have a good day,
Hi there, and thanks for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline for your HIV/AIDS related health information.
It seems you're concerned about the possibility of HIV transmission through a handjob or a massage.
Massages and Non-Insertive Masturbation (Handjobs) are No Risk activities. This means that to our knowledge, none of the practices in this category have ever been demonstrated to lead to HIV infection.
When assessing HIV risk we can refer to the equation below:
|• blood (including menstrual)||• unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse||• vagina|
|• semen||• sharing needles||• anus|
|• pre-cum||• mother to child (in specific cases)||• urethra in the penis|
|• rectal secretions||• open cuts and sores (in theory)|
|• vaginal fluids||• other mucosal membranes|
|• breast milk||• points of needle injection|
As you can see, for HIV to transmit, body fluids must be exchanged, a risky activity must occur and HIV must have direct access to the blood stream. Massages and hand jobs (with or without gloves) provide none of these requirements.
As for the symptoms you are experiencing, we at AIDS Vancouver are not healthcare providers, so cannot comment on them. From and HIV standpoint, HIV infections are never diagnosed based on symptoms alone, simply because the symptoms of an HIV infection are quite common to many other common medical conditions. Testing is the only way to diagnose an HIV infection. If you're concerned about any symptoms you're experiencing, we'd encourage you to see a healthcare provider.
On this forum we focus on HIV risk, you can visit, Smart Sex Resource, for information about sexually transmitted infections.
I would also encourage you to check out the following resources for more information about HIV:
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