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Potential Exposure to HIV at Massage Parlour


I visited a massage parlour exactly 65 hours from now. I was lying naked on my back and the massage girl gave me a body to body massage, stroked my penis and she rubbed my unprotected erect penis head on her wet vagina.

I'm freaking out, did I just contract HIV.

(I have HSV2 and a recent outbreak was cured 1 week ago and I'm on suppressive therapy)

Please help folks I'm freaking out.

thanks to all in advance


Hello and thank you for your inquiry.

We understand that you are concerned about your risk level for HIV acquisition from non-insertive genital to genital contact with a person of unknown HIV status.

Assuming that your penis did not penetrate her vagina, and that you did not have any sores on your penis, this scenario would be assigned a negligible risk for HIV transmission.
A negligible risk level means that there is a potential for HIV transmission due to the possible exchange of bodily fluids, however, there has never been a confirmed report of such a transmission.

In order to contract HIV the following conditions must be met:

  • There must be HIV present in a bodily fluid. The five bodily fluids that carry the HIV virus include: blood, semen (including pre-ejaculate), vaginal fluids, breast milk, and rectal secretions.
  • The bodily fluid containing HIV must have direct access to the bloodstream. This can be through cuts, tears, rips, mucous membranes, open sores, or needles.
  • Transmission occurs through a risky activity in which the first two conditions are met. For example: condomless sex, sharing needles, unsafe tattoos or piercings, vertical transmission–from mother to child (in utero, during delivery, breastfeeding) (1)

People who have genital herpes sores are more likely to be infected with HIV during intercourse. When you develop a sore, the immune system tries to heal it, so there are many immune cells concentrated in that spot. Those are the cells that HIV infects. If HIV in semen, vaginal fluid, or blood comes in contact with a herpes sore, the risk for infection is high. (2)

Although HIV transmission is quite unlikely from the situation you described, if you have any concern that there may have been an open sore on your penis at the time of this encounter, then please refer to a healthcare professional for HIV testing.

Regards, AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Dyson