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Should I be worried, I am feeling very anxious.


Hi there,
Thank you all so much for all that you do!

I am feeling extremely anxious. I have a relative that my mom sees sometimes, I'm not very close with them so I don't. He is HIV positive and I can't help but worry for my mom every time she is around him. I know that she obviously won't be having intercourse with him (as they are family) and they both are not drug users - so that is out of the question. However, I keep scaring myself with hypothetical situations that she will somehow become infected through casually hanging out occasionally. I have a baby and now I am scaring myself that she may have HIV, which will in turn give it to my baby (her grandson). Please help, is there any way that mom can get HIV from casually being around her family member and then pass it on to my baby? What if he had a cute that was bleeding and my mom had a cut or scratch.

Thank you so much in advance for your help.



Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about the risk of acquiring HIV through casual contact. From the information given, this scenario is determined to be No Risk Transmission of HIV is not possible with the given scenario. (No exchange of bodily fluids)

HIV is not transmitted through social contact such as hugging, kissing, shaking hands, sharing toilette or dishes and sharing space with an HIV positive individual. HIV is not transmitted via small cuts or scratches there should be large gaping cuts or sores copiously bleeding that could serve as a potential source in transmission of the virus.

In order to contract HIV the following conditions must be met: There must be HIV present in a bodily fluid. The five bodily fluids that carry the HIV virus include: blood, semen (including pre-ejaculate), vaginal fluids, breast milk, and rectal secretions. The bodily fluid containing HIV must have direct access to the bloodstream. This can be through cuts, tears, rips, mucous membranes, open sores, or needles. Transmission occurs through a risky activity in which the first two conditions are met. For example: condom less sex, sharing needles, unsafe tattoos or piercings, vertical transmission–from mother to child (in utero, during delivery, breastfeeding).

Recommendation: Refer to a physician for other health related questions.

Regards, AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Vardah.