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Unprotected fellatio...fully protected vaginal sex....Latex condom being intact..


Sir , I had sex with one female ( unknown status of HIV) 9 days ago , unprotected oral sex by me lending penis and she giving mouth i.e. penile mouth oral sex ...I am HIV -..... did not ejaculate ( she appeared not to have any mouth sores, also when kissed , I could not taste any blood or any bad breath or any abnormality /abrasion - but I am not 100% confident about gum disease, if any she had).. we kissed not very deep and not dry either for 10-12 seconds max....
Then I had fully protected vaginal sex and the condom being fully intact ( I am sure as I have checked it two times during the activity and also checked by putting it under tap water - it did not leaked ) hence I am fully confirm to have it intact....no ejaculation and ejected the penis while more or less straight... No condom sleep off ....
Now she had no lesions/rashes on her entire body / skin / face/ mouth ....appeared hyegenic...
But now I am freaking out for the fear of HIV....
How about my chances of contracting it ....?
Please reply to it...

I am very anxious....


Hello and thank you for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline.

We understand that you are inquiring about the risk of acquiring HIV from receiving oral sex and having protected vaginal sex with a person of unknown HIV status.

Receiving oral sex is considered to carry a negligible risk for transmission of HIV. This means that theoretically there is a potential for HIV transmission due to the exchange of bodily fluids, but that there has never been a confirmed report of such a transmission.

Protected vaginal sex is categorized as a low risk activity for HIV transmission, meaning that there have been a few reports of infection attributed to this activity. These cases are mostly attributed to condom failure. Consider the following information from the Canadian AIDS Treatment and Information Exchange:

"In studies of condom breakage, slippage and leakage, it was not possible to know how many participants were actually using condoms correctly. However, research suggests that rates of condom failure decrease with more frequent condom use, and the number of previous failure experiences. This evidence all points to the conclusion that over time people learn to use condoms correctly and this reduces failure rates. However, failure is never reduced to zero, even for experienced condom users who use condoms consistently and correctly" (2)

This information is not meant to alarm you, but rather to explain why an HIV test is warranted for this scenario. Even though your risk is very low from the scenario described, a proper HIV test administered by a health care professional is the only way to confirm your HIV status. It sounds like you were very cautious with your condom use and that is commendable. In the future you might consider safer oral sex practices to further reduce your risk level as well as your anxiety. We have included a link with information on this below.

We would also like to point out that you cannot predict a person's HIV status based on their appearance or attributes such as bad breath. mouth sores etc. The length of time of an activity (ie 10-12 seconds) is not relevant in a measurable way to your risk level.

Recommendation: Refer to a healthcare professional for HIV testing. Fourth-generation HIV tests can detect HIV infection in 50% of people by 18 days after infection; 95% of people by 34 days after infection; and 99% of people by one and a half months after infection.

Regards, AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Dyson