Hi, i went to a massage parlor and got a b2b massage, i was wearing a disposable underwear and she was completely naked.
At first a precum came out of me from being aroused and i could feel it cause it went through the disposable underwear and then She started rubbing her vagina on my penis ( i still had my disposable underwear on ) and the rubbing went on for about 30 seconds when i asked her to move away and masturbated until i came.
I then checked her vagina and didn't notice any vagina fluids coming from her but i am not sure if during the rubbing she did discharge any although when i touched the underwear after i asked her to move aside i felt no wetness on them.
Also please not that she was kissing me on my lips only no deep kissing and she tried to slide her tongue inside my mouth but i didn't interact with her and moved her away but her tongue did touch my lips.
Please note that 2 weeks ago i also had a massage with the same woman but that time she was wearing her underwear and i was naked and i noticed that she had the menstrual pad under her underwear not sure if she had her periods or not and i was rubbing my naked penis on her underwear and then she asked me to but my penis between her thighs and ejaculate which i did and i came between her thighs. In both incidents there has been no penetration or hand job or oral sex what so ever.
My question are:
1. In both incidents am i at risk of getting infected with hiv through these actions?
2. If the woman was hiv+ and her vagina fluids somehow came in contact with my disposable underwear does it pose a risk of hiv transmission? (Please note that the disposable underwear is not a thick fabric, and i have read on this site that if vaginal fluids come in contact with the penis opening it might be a risk of hiv transmission so i am worried that if any fluids from her vagina was present on the underwear it might have gone through the underwear and into my penis hole).
3. Is it true that once the virus is outside the host ( the woman vagina ) it dies cause it got in contact with the air?
4. And what about the kissing part where she tried to force her tongue in my mouth and i felt her tongue touching my teeth, does this oppose any risk?
I request you to please answer my query with as much detail as possible, please i have a wife and a kids and i am very worried. I promised my self never again to get into such an encounter where i put my self and family at risk.
Appreciating your kind help and apologize for some of the wards used but i wanted to be as specific as possible.
Thanking you in advance.
Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about your risk of acquisition from each of the following activities (mutual masturbation, non-penetrative sex, kissing, and contact with vaginal discharge).
From the information given, these scenarios are determined to be of no risk (transmission of HIV is not possible in the given scenario). Kissing (with no blood present), non-insertive masturbation are practices that have never demonstrated to lead to HIV infection.
In regard to your questions:
Each of these scenarios provided are determined to be no risk. All activities described do not fulfill our HIV transmission equation.
There has never been a reported or confirmed case of HIV acquisition from contact between underwear and vaginal discharge. However, a more intimate occasion such as rubbing genitals against each other has the potential for transmission though this is considered a negligible risk (there are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission).
HIV is rendered inactive by exposure to oxygen yet it will decay in concentration over several hours.
Kissing is a no risk activity, provided there is no direct exchange of blood (transmission of HIV is not possible in the given scenario).
Recommendation: There are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission; refer to Physician for more personalized answers.
Regards, AIDS Vancouver Helpline/Online, Cody