I have been very troubled lately. Last July I tried something new and I decided to join a gay dating site. I chatted with people there but I don't do meet-ups 'coz I know how risky it is. But then one day I chatted with someone whom I think is decent and professional enough for me to at least give the guy I chance. We decided to have a meet-up. He was nice and charming. I didn't expect to someone like that on a dating site. We became really good friends. Then one night, out of lust I guess, we did it.
The oral sex was unprotected and the anal ( I was the bottom ) was protected. He even fingered me. I promised myself that it will not happen again but we did again.. twice. The second one was only mutual masturbation and he fingered me again. The third one was another unprotected oral sex.
After all the fun I suddenly got worried when a friend asked me one day: "ARE YOU SURE HE IS CLEAN?" Thoughts came into my mind. WHAT IF HE IS NOT CLEAN? I immediately asked him about his past sex life but he didn't oblige to go into detail. I got so paranoid that I researched facts about HIV. I really got more nervous when I recently got a cold [ 10 weeks after the first experience, 8 weeks after the second one, and 4 days after the third one ], ( runny nose, sneezing, mild fever [38.2]). The fever lasted for only a day since I took paracetamol to cool down my fever but my runny nose lasted for almost a week. 2 weeks before that I got some sort of cough with phlegm with wheezing ( I have history of asthma but it remained dormant for years now and I was wondering why it recurred just now..) and runny nose also.
I was requesting him to take an HIV test for me but he is hesitant because of his busy schedule.
As I read articles, online forums, and other websites dedicated to HIV [ since I am intensively searching the net about HIV for months now!], my case was just a low risk exposure. But I am still worried because before the fingering he continuously rubbed his penis against my anus (unprotected) and I am afraid that some of his pre-ejaculate entered inside my anus during the fingering. I am so PARANOID RIGHT NOW 'coz I am not used to this. I just wanna try something new and I never hooked up with ANYONE before him.
Do you think my case was a reason for high concern though there was no unprotected anal sex involved?
Is common cold and those other things I am experiencing in the past few days a typical sign of HIV?
Can asthma reoccur during ARS?
I am planning to have an HIV as soon as I am finish with my window period. As of now, I just want to vent out what I feel. I have never been so ANXIOUS and down in my life before this happened and I regret that I put myself in this type of situation.
I am a 44 year old gay male. I do not do anal sex at all, but do oral sex. I performed oral sex on a guy , there was no ejaculation at all, but I found out he was HIV positive,. I have started worrying about this.
my exposure was on the 22nd October 2013. Unfortunately the doctor at the hospital denied PEP when I asked for it.
I started to experience diarrhoe, pain in joints and muscles on day 7 after exposure. At this stage I wasn't sure if they might come from the antibiotics the told me to take to cure a possible Chlamydia/Gonorrhea infection. On day 8 my right lymph node near my grain was swollen and unbelievable painful. I decided to get a test (HIV PCR) on day 16 after exposure. Maybe too early but symptoms where hard to explain for me. I got a negative test result back.
On day 20 after exposure the left lymph node near my groin became swollen as well. Then two days the lymph nodes (axiliar) started to react with inflammation. A burning pain, swollen and painful. On day 25 after exposure I could sense it is less painful to touch my lymph nodes (groin and axiliar). Unfortunately the lymph nodes hollow of both kees were swollen and painful. Today is day28 after exposure and all lymph nodes are still slighty swollen. The most painful lymph nodes are still at the hollow of my knees. I can't stand longer than five minutes. In addition my legs are burning like hell. I can't sleep longer than six hours although I was used to sleep much longer. Nightsweats from time to time, some chills last week and a sore throat.
Surprisingly I had no fever yet. Good or bad sign? I don't know....
Well regarding my exposure- making a long story short: a sex worker with lots of red rash mostly on her breast and back and an ulcus or herpes simplex infection at their lip, unprotected oral sex while I am 90% sure I had an open herpes genitalis wound at my penis, 50% sure that we had protected anal & vaginal sex. Just to clarify: We had oral (unprotected) sex and vaginal and anal sex (hopefully protected). I can't tell anymore if the condom were allright after I had some trouble inserting my penis into her anus.
Accordingly to my symptoms: What is your experience when it comes to lymph nodes swollen and painful all over the body. My HIV PCR result useless because I went to early for the test and swollen lymph nodes occured after my HIV PCR was taken?
In addition I think I am infected with Syphilis. A black dot at my penis which wasn't there yesterday. It doesn't look good :( Due to the lymph nodes I was tested on Syphilis on Tuesday and have to wait for the result.
Should I get tested now again for HIV with an antigen test or should i wait till week 6 (after exposure)?
Any comment appreciated. Thanks in advance!
I had a protected anal sex and unprotected bj( both insertive) 7weeks ago, after experiencing suspicious symtoms like fever and diarrhea after 2 weeks from that I took a test on the 4th week and 6th week, both shown negative. When I think I shall wait for another retest on 12th week as a conclusive one I started to experience itchiness all over my body from scalp to toe. As this is bothering with reading up online and know that most positive patient have dry and itchy skin issue.
Should I go retest again soon or shall I wait for 12 week still?
i would like to know my test accuracy. i am very worried after all my tests. because got very sick really really sick in this 3 months. my expose was protected vaginal sex with a csw . but didnt check the condom afther my expose i got really sick for a months. plz check my testes and tell me if i still have a chance of being positive at 6 months. does these testes should have turned positive after i got sick. i am very concern beacuse im still sick thank you doctor for your help i would be glad to get an answer from you.
after 11 days ( RPR and HIV1,2 ANTIBODIES ECLIA METHOD ) NON REACTIVE AND NEGATIVE
after 47 days ( HIV 1,2 ANTIBODIES ECLIA METHOD ) NEGATIVE
after 55 days ( HIV1,2 ANTIBODIES ELISA METHOD) NEGATIVE
after 63 days ( HIV 1,2 ANTIBODIES ECLIA METHOD ) NEGATIVE
after 69 days ( HIV1,2 ANTIBODIES ELISA METHOD ) NEGATIVE
after 74 days ( HIV 1,2 ABS / P24 ANTIGEN CLIA METHOD ) NON RECTIVE
after 75 days (HIV 1,2 ANTIBODIES ELISA METHOD ) NEGATIVE
after 80 days ( HIV DUO TEST ABS + ANTIGEN ) NEGATIVE
after 85 days ( HIV1,2 ANTIBODIES ELISA METHOD ) NEGATIVE
after 86 days ( HIV1,2 PCR RNA QUALITATIVE ) NOT DETECTED
after 96 days ( HIV DUO TEST ABS + ANTIGEN ) NEGATIVE
plzz help me doctor
hi. toda i was travelling in a bus n there was a girl who seems to me drugist and sh seems in some intoxication. i dont have an problems but sh had bleeding hands. she was walkin here and there in runnin bus. during ha sh was close to me nd somehow accidently her blood got on my face. i was so worried so i m askin u guys for help so if necessary i can start pep. so my question is if her blood got may be 2 drops on my face where i got lots of acne n pimples, am i at risk for hiv. besides, at that time i felt somehing went into my eyes, so if that was blood am i at risk for hiv and what about her blood on my mouth
Dear Sir, I am extremely worried. I had sex with a CSW before 4 days. It was protected sex with two condoms. I didn't ejaculate in her. Her vagina was not that much wet, what I think but I am not sure. My concern is my penis was not fully covered and end of the shaft was unprotected. After that I masturbated having condoms on and then removed condom with same hand. As condoms also could contain vaginal fluid on it and Then I touched my penis to remove semen from it. During this my hand must have come in contact with my penis head. After some time I washed my penis so fluid on unprotected part may have gone to penis head bt I am sure it has not gone to pee hole as I am uncircumcised. Do I have any chances of having HIV from this? I am too worried. I have a girlfriend and I am worried about her too. Though I haven't had sex with her after this. Please guide me in this regard.
A thank you to Greg for answering my question "Please Advise Me On Potential Risks And Whether I Need To Test" nov 17th.
Just to specify:
At no time was my penis inserted into her vagina without a condom on.
During the frottage, the woman had rubbed her vulva on my scrotum and my shaft. As far as I'm aware, it did not penetrate her, however as I was using my hand to masturbate at the same time, I was worried that perhaps during the event some of vaginal fluid may have been rubbed near/into my urethra.
After intercourse, she carefully rolled the condom off with a tissue and used tissue to clean off the fluids on my penis. Again, worried that fluid could've been rubbed near/into my urethra.
The cut was small no more than 1-1.5 cm. about 90 mind after seeing her, I got home and noticed the cut had a big drop of blood coming from it. The fissure I've been told is nothing to worry about.
Thank you taking time to answer my questions.
I practiced safe sex, but am worried about alternate routes of transmission.
What's the validity of the Jal Innovation HIV home tests?
I tested 5 weeks with a duo test and again at 7 weeks with a Jal home test.
I plan to test again with a antibody test at 12 weeks.
Would the negative results I obtained from the two previous tests be a good indicator? Will it likely change?
The Jal tests seem legit and so does the company and they have FDA, CE and SFDA certificates.
It does state with their test to test at 30 and 60 days then follow up with a doctor.
Btw my exposure was protected sex and unprotected oral on a woman....so low risk?
Would having protected intercourse with a csw(no breakage of the condom) along with receiving protected oral and giving unprotected cunninglingus warrant specific HIV testing for that occasion as all is low risk?
I test every 12 months and always use condoms.
I did perform unprotected oral on the lady but from what I've read it's low risk as there are afew cases but that's with people with existing Sti or poor health and oral health. I don't have any infections myself and my general health and oral health is good.
Should I be concerned specifically for HIV?
I'm really stressed.