Hie. Thank you so much for this platform. I have a very serious question. I met this girl. So one day she came over to my house, she was on her period. So we briefly kissed then afterwards. She sat on me and started grinding on my penis we were both fully clothed she was wearing a sanitary pad, underwear and dress and I was wearing my boxers and jeans. After a few minutes I decided I want to finger her. So as she undressed I didn't see any blood stain (from the period) on her panties but I did see her remove her sanitary pad. So I put on some latex glove and proceeded to do so. After fingering I noticed a little blood and vaginal fluid on the glove. I immediately stopped then removed the glove. I'm sure the glove didn't leak as I didn't see anything on my finger. Fast forward a few weeks later I woke up with a sore throat (no other symptoms) that only lasted that day. It was sore on the left side mostly but as the day progressed it ended. The next day I was fine, no other symptoms. My concerns about this very stupid incident are as follows:

1. Since she was having her period, when she grinded against me, could there have been some little at the back of her sanitary pad which would have seeped through her underwear, then her dress, then onto my jeans, then onto my boxers and found itself into one of my mucous membranes on my penis. I dont recall seeing any blood on my jeans but I dont remember.. I read somewhere that HIV cant be transmitted through clothing but is it possible that the little viral particles could have found their way through the pores of fabric and onto my penis?

2. I purchased the latex gloves from a pharmacy and they were in a plastic bag in my closet (which is cool). They never broke and I didnt see any liquid seep through. I remember on the finger I used to finger her I had a minor peeling on the eponychium (hangnail). It had been like that for many weeks, but there was no blood though.

3. The sore throat still worries me. It was the only symptom and only lasted a day. Could it have been ARS

My life has been a living nightmare ever since. I am so afraid all the time I could have been exposed, please help me. Should I get tested?

Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about acquiring HIV through blood on clothing, protected fingering, and a sore throat symptom in regards to ARS. From the information given, this scenario is determined to be Negligible Risk There are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission.

The scenario mentioned above does not meet the three components of the transmission equation. It is required for bodily fluid to be transferred through a high risk activity with direct access to the bloodstream to complete transmission (1). Blood on clothing would not satisfy the equation because there was no high risk activity to transfer the bodily fluid and there was no direct access to the bloodstream in this scenario. For the protected fingering scenario there was bodily fluid, a low risk activity, and low chance of direct access to the bloodstream due to protection (potential breakage of glove) (1). A quote from CDC should be considered as well " HIV does not survive long outside the human body (such as on surfaces), and it cannot reproduce outside a human host" (2). This refers to the blood on the clothing and with exposure to oxygen HIV is referred inactive.

A sore throat symptom does not necessarily mean you have ARS as HIV symptoms mirror other viral infections or can be explained by other things, getting tested is really the only way to know (2).

Recommendation: There are no evidence or no documented cases of transmission refer to Physician for more personalised answers.


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