Hi, hiv has me scare to death. 8 months ago i had unprotected sex with a girl that i barely knew. Turns out she had a boyfriend so we had to stop seeing each other. That made me paranoid so fourty days later i went for an hiv test and full std test that came out all negative.....dr told me to come back in six months but after 3 1/2 months i started to feel sick..i felt headaches, body aches and im scared to death and i cant get the courage to go scares me because during that six month period i ended up getting a gf and we have always used condoms but one time she put the tip of my penis on her clit and rubbed then i put on a condom and had sex withh a one point the condom broke inside her but i inmidiately pulled out. I am afraid to give her something if i have it..I dont know how in the world i would face her if sometihng was wrong with me.. i never ejaculated inside her vagina or eight months later i feel sick again..i feel extremely fatigue and weak...i dont know what to do.
Hello and thanks for reaching out to the AIDS Vancouver Helpline.

It seems you are concerned that the symptoms that you are having might indicate that yo have HIV. We are glad to provide some information.

It is encouraging that you have already been tested once. At Aids Vancouver we recommend that for conclusive results people get tested three months or 12 weeks after the exposure. It seems you are still to do this and we encourage you to seriously consider that. It will help to remove your anxiety.

We do not determine the HIV status of an individual using symptoms. The reason is that some symptoms are caused by viral infections that are not related to HIV. The only way to determine your HIV status is by getting tested.

Vulva rubbing is considered a Negligible Risk activity. This means that there are no confirmed reports of HIV infection from this activity. Condom break during sex is considered a High Risk activity. This means that the activity has been repeatedly associated with HIV infection. When people are engaged in high risk activities we encourage them to get tested which you have done. At Aids Vancouver we encourage people to use HIV testing as a regular health maintenance routine. This means getting tested once or twice a year. It helps in that infections can be detected early and appropriate interventions done in time.

The Aids Vancouver Helpline Online forum has postings that are related to your question that you can read for additional information. If you have any further questions feel free to contact us again.

Thank you for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline.

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