Hi good morning,
I would greatly appreciate your support on the below. I am a really anxious person and my conscience plays a really big part in my daily life. So, since the below situation occurred, I have been in complete sadness not only for the risks that I experienced, but for what I did to my wife, son and family… My feelings of regret are unbelievable.

I had an encounter with a transsexual woman last sunday. At the beginning we did not do much, but then she touched my unerect penis with my underwear on for about 10 seconds, then I touched and kissed her breast for about 10 seconds or so, then I touched her bare skin penis with my hand for about 10 more seconds – she was not fully erect btw. Then she put a condom on her penis and I decided to do protected oral (making sure the condom was properly wore in first place), but after 10 seconds or so, I stopped because I did not like it (it felt awkward and not right) on top of the nasty latex flavor. Then she masturbated my penis for about 10 seconds, but I decided I wanted to do it on my own so I “finished” in my hand. I asked her about her HIV status and she told me she was clean (although she was upset with my question). As far as I have seen, these activities (breast kissing without any fluids, brief mutual masturbation and protected oral sex) offered little to no risk of infection, but I need to have peace of mind…

I took a really close look at her, at her hands her breasts, penis and I did not notice any kind of signs of infection. Also she reassured that she was not sick…

Later that day I took a plane and started feeling a sore throat and little bit of cough, so I started having fears of what i did (not sure if the onset hiv window could be so fast!). Also I noticed that I had a really small canker sore in my front lower gum (not bleeding btw)…

Support group, please let me know what should I do? Should I just learn from this sad episode and move on with my life? Or should I get tested? If I should get tested, is there any quick test that can be trustworthy at this stage or should I wait for 90 day window?

Please help me, Im desperate!

Hi there,

Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about the risk of HIV transmission given the acts of mutual masturbation, performing oral sex, and nipple sucking.

It is important to first address that when looking at HIV risk and HIV transmission that we do not focus on the identity of the individual or group of individuals, but rather, the risk associated with the act's performed in each scenario.

To answer your question, each scenario that you have described above presents No Risk for HIV transmission.

For this reason, acts related to this scenario would require no need for HIV screening. However, the symptoms you may be experiencing cannot be directly attributed to HIV seroconversion without adequate proof from testing results.

To reiterate, this scenario provides No Risk to you in terms of HIV transmission. If you are having future concerns regarding your HIV status, we would recommend you seek HIV screening. Most, if not all of the HIV screening methods available are 'trustworthy' and can be considered highly accurate. If you are having concerns regarding your sexual health it is always wise to consult your local physician. In the future, if you feel as though you have had a High Risk encounter, seeking alternative protective measures such as PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) and PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) may be an option that could provide an extra barrier of protection for you against HIV transmission.

You also may find our [HIV Transmission Equation]( to be a helpful resource for HIV transmission information.

Recommendation: No need for HIV testing with the scenario provided, refer to a physician for other health related questions.

I hope this answers all your questions!

All the best,

AIDS Vancouver Online/Helpline, Cody


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