i am worried and living in fear last three months. not able to concentrate and live peacefully. please help me by analyzing my situation. i am living in a feeling of guilt as this is my first time of such behavior. will never repeat this.
my situation is like this.
1. girl may be csw came to my room and get naked. i hugged her from back and played with her breast. then i also got naked and lay naked on the bed. she sat on my legs holding my penis in her hands and started jerking.
she asked me for protected oral which i denied because of the fear of infection. then she asked me for protected sex again i denied for the same reason. so no oral and no sex happened between us. but she was sitting naked on my legs and was pressing her vegina on my legs. once i made her sleep on the bed and touched her vagina superficially for few secs ( 5 to 10). no finger penetration in the vagina. she then strated giving me handjob. with the massage oil. later she asked me to cum on her tummy which i did my self.
this is all that happened. now my worry is
1. if she is hiv positive ( i dont know her status) and have acquired hiv only few days/ weeks before then she must be on high viral load. what is the possibility that i might get infection from what happened between us.?
2. the above act is considered high risk or what type?
3. should i get tested for hiv . i went to doctor ( hiv /std specialist) who checked me manually and said i am free from STD, No need to worry. he checked my whole body by taking off my cloths.

please advise me what to do and save me
Hello there,

Thank you for your inquiry. From what we gather from the question, you were asking about the possibility of HIV transmission from having a female rub her genitals on your legs and performing a hand job using a message oil. From the information given, this scenario is determined to be No Risk (transmission of HIV is not possible with the given scenario (No exchange of bodily fluids) [1]. However, if you choose to continue with similar activities, we would recommend using protection or barrier (i.e.condom). Using a barrier like a condom during oral sex can further reduce the risk of transmitting HIV, other STDs. [2]

This scenario does not provide a risk for HIV transmission. This is because it does not satisfy the 3 components of our [HIV Transmission Equation]( The equation requires the following to be present in order for HIV transmission to occur: HIV positive bodily fluid (semen, pre-cum, vaginal fluid, anal fluid, blood, and breast milk), with *direct access to the bloodstream*, through a High Risk, Low Risk, or Negligible Risk activity.

Recommendation: There is no evidence or no documented cases of transmission. Refer to a healthcare professional for more personalized answers.

Thank you for contacting AIDS Vancouver Helpline,

AIDS Vancouver Helpline, Joseph
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