Hello i would like some help.Before 6 years a transgender person gave me oral (i am male and i was the insertive) without knowing her status.After this i was so stressed and i had multiple symptoms such as one day diarrhea, another day some sore throat and after 2 months of the incident 2 boils ,large pimples, in my groin.i could not sleep,i was sleeping the day and all the night i had worries in my head.After 2.5 years of the incident i went to a clinic to screen for hiv with elisa test.I told them that i was so worried and i was waiting the positive result.after 6 hours i went to take the results which were negative.All tell me that i have not to worry but i cant.before one year i met my girlfriend and after we had sex (unprotected) she had a herald patch and soon after some rash with flu.the doctor told her that she had mononucleosis but she didnt saw her herald patch.i google for it and i saw it was pityriasis rosea.although still i had worries that i infected her,so before 1 month i told her all my truth and in order to feel me good ,she went to another clinic and did the elisa test which she took the results the other morning and it was negative.(11 months after these symptoms)Please help me should i be worried? I dont have normal life.everyday i google symptoms and the mornings i feel exhausted and i cannot live my life! I had my mom with thyroid and diabetes and she told me that maybe all these negative thoughts i have are because maybe i also have uncontrolled thyroid. Can i forget the hiv for ever? Both i and my gf dont cheat at all and we want to have a baby.thank you so much for hearing me!!
Hi there and thank you for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Online Helpline.

It may help you to know that receiving oral sex is considered to be a negligible risk of HIV. This means that there have not been any reported cases of someone acquiring HIV in this way in British Columbia.

HIV tests are considered to have conclusive results when taken 12 weeks (3 months) or more after exposure occurred. The test you took 2.5 years after exposure can be considered to be conclusive. Having thyroid issues or diabetes does not affect the testing window period or test results. There are only 4 factors that can affect the HIV testing window period. They are:

1.) Taking antiviral treatment for Hepatitis C.

2.) Undergoing treatment for cancer.

3.) Taking post-exposure prophylaxis treatment for HIV.

4.) Having another immunodeficiency disease (this would likely have been diagnosed in infancy or childhood and you would be aware of it).

In these cases testing is required up to 6 months.

In regards to the symptoms you've been experiencing, at AIDS Vancouver we do not go by symptoms as an indicator of HIV. This is because symptoms can be present for any number of reasons that are not related to HIV. My recommendation would be to share your concerns about symptoms with your doctor and partner with them in finding the cause of your symptoms and hopefully finding an appropriate treatment.

For more information about HIV you can always visit the AIDS Vancouver website or

I hope this information helps to answer your questions.

Isla (Volunteer)

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