The whole thing lasted less than 5 minutes, with a lot of interruption and exposure to air.

Only oral and nothing else.

I didn't see any visible blood in her saliva.

My question is: can a small amount of blood invisible to be seen carry a risk?

Or does saliva destroy any traces of the virus if the blood is not significant enough to be seen by the naked eye?

I know I have absolutely zero risk of having HIV but the whole thing is anxiety provoking since my new job depends on my HIV status.

This was my only freaking sex act my entire life and I deeply regret it.

Can you answer my question please?
Hello and thank you for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline. I am happy to assist you.

It sounds like you are very concerned about your HIV status because of your new job! I am going to break it down for you so hopefully we can clear a few things up about your risk!

Firstly, receiving oral sex is considered to be a negligible risk. This means that in over 30 million cases worldwide, none have come from receiving oral sex. This is because, like you seem to know, the only way for it to be passed would be for the other person's fluids to come in contact with your genitals. In the case of oral sex, the only fluid that comes from the mouth would be blood- and saliva does work to inhibit the transmission of HIV. Although, it is possible that blood was present but not visible to you, but the saliva stops it from allowing HIV to be transmitted. Any blood present has the possibility of carrying the virus whether the blood was visible or not, but this is only if your partner is HIV positive.

If you gave oral sex, this is considered a low risk activity. This is because the other person's genital fluid may have had contact with your mouth. Please note, however, that the HIV virus cannot enter the body through the throat. It has to enter through a cut in the mouth that is deep enough to provide access to the bloodstream. For example, a risk would be present if you recently had a large amount of dental work, deep bleeding wounds, stitches, etc. Small things like biting your cheek, etc, do not provide deep enough access- so don't worry about minor abrasions in the mouth! In your case, you have been so specific in your details that I am assuming you do not have excessive bleeding or wounds in your mouth, so your risk would be lowered.

In your case, it seems likely that your new job will test you for HIV, so you may not have to get one on your own time. If it would reduce your stress, however, you might want to get tested (although it doesn't seem hugely necessary in your situation). Testing is the only true way to know your status, and a lot of people find comfort in knowing rather than being stuck wondering! Here at AIDS Vancouver we always encourage regular STI and HIV testing to all those who are sexually active. Ultimately though, whether you decide to test or not and how you handle your situation is up to you.

Lastly, I would like you to remember not to feel bad about engaging in sexual activity! It is normal and healthy and a part of life! Sexual activity is not bad in itself, but it is the way you are able to have control over it that makes all the difference.

I wish you the best of luck, and encourage you to contact us again if you have any more questions!



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