Hi Guys thanks for taking your time to answer my question.Last year in August I had unprotected oral sex, kissing and fingering but since then I been really worried and I can stop but to think I been infected with this deadly disease as I keep getting symptoms I know you guys dont go by symptoms but they are scaring me and I just cant stop researching and looking for symptoms of HIV for instance I have had chest infection which I found out your are more likely to get it if you have weak immune system and also I believe I have oral thrush which freak me out as well. I really dont know what to do I am scared to go out and test it is been nearly a year and I am scared to death I just cant live like this anymore and I have share my issues with others as I am worried they will judge me and say something negative behind my back. Please guys help me . Thanks
Hi there, and thanks a lot for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline for your HIV/AIDS related health information. It seems you're worried about the possibility of HIV transmitting during an encounter you had a while ago. We're happy to answer that question for you.

The activities you describe are at most low risk. Giving oral sex is considered low risk, receiving oral sex is considered negligible risk, and everything else (kissing, fingering) is no risk. Low risk essentially means that while it is possible for transmission to occur, specific conditions are required. In this case, transmission might be more possible if you'd had major dental work done recently, for example. To get a sense of what is required for HIV to transmit, check out our transmission equation. All three of these are required for transmission to occur:

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• blood (including menstrual) • unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse • vagina
• semen • sharing needles • anus
• pre-cum • mother to child (in specific cases) • urethra in the penis
• rectal secretions • open cuts and sores (in theory)
• vaginal fluids • other mucosal membranes
• breast milk • points of needle injection
You've already answered your question about symptoms, as we at AIDS Vancouver are not healthcare providers, so cannot comment on any symptoms you're currently experiencing. The only way to diagnose an HIV infection conclusively is through testing, as the symptoms of an HIV infection are the same as many other common medical conditions. If you're concerned about any symptoms you're experiencing, we encourage you to see a physician for further assessment.

If you've never been for a test, we encourage you to go. Routine HIV testing is recommended for all sexually active people. Your activities do not suggest any significant risk, so it really would just be a routine test for you. We understand that you may be a bit scared to go for a test, but we encourage you to think of it as a routine thing you'd do to maintain good health. The results would be considered conclusive (as it has been a year since your encounter) and they'd probably go a long way to easing your concerns.

Finally, while we do not have any reason to think your status is positive, an HIV infection is one of the more manageable chronic health conditions. Becoming positive is a pretty significant life even for many people, but those living with HIV are able to live long and full lives with appropriate medication. There really is nothing to fear about becoming HIV positive.

Thanks for contacting the AIDS Vancouver Helpline with your question. We hope you start to feel better soon.


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